Pinned post by Malcolm — Community Founder
I’m Malcolm, and I started Love Over Exile because I know what it’s like to feel completely alone in this. When I was in the worst of it — arrested on false allegations, rejected by my entire community, cut off from my three children — I couldn’t find a single place where someone truly understood. Not therapists, not friends, not the legal system. The loneliness of parental alienation is unlike anything else.
If you’ve found your way here, chances are you know that feeling. The one where the ground has shifted under everything you thought you knew about being a parent.
This thread is for introductions — your first hello if you want to give one. Share as much or as little as you’re comfortable with. Some people write their whole story, others just say “I’m here.” Both are welcome.
You’ll notice we use stage tags — they help people find others in similar situations:
Early Days — Just realising what’s happening, still trying to make sense of it all
Crisis Mode — In the thick of legal battles, accusations, or emergency situations
Long Haul — Been at this for a while, learning to live with the reality
Reconnection — Working on rebuilding relationships with your children
Mentor — Been through it, here to support others
Don’t stress about picking the right one. I’ve been every single one of these.
This community is built on one simple principle: we speak from the “I.” We share our experience, not instructions. We validate first, advise second. And we never, ever judge each other for how we’re coping.
Welcome. I’m glad you found us, even though I’m sorry you had to.
Malcolm