Community Guidelines — Please Read Before Posting

Introduce Yourself
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Welcome to the Love Over Exile Community

This is a safe space for alienated parents to connect, share experiences, and support each other. To keep it that way, we ask everyone to follow these guidelines.

Our Core Rules

  1. “Speak from the I” — Share what worked for you, not what others should do. “What helped me was…” rather than “You should…”

  2. Protect identities — Never name your children, ex-partners, judges, lawyers, or social workers. Use pseudonyms or general descriptions only.

  3. Pseudonyms welcome — You do not need to use your real name. Your privacy matters.

  4. No legal advice — Share your experience, but never give instructions about legal strategy. Every case is unique. See our Court & Legal category for the full disclaimer.

  5. This is not crisis support — If you or someone you know is in immediate danger or having thoughts of self-harm, please contact the crisis resources pinned in every category.

  6. Be kind, especially when it is hard — Everyone here is carrying something heavy. Disagreement is fine. Cruelty is not.

  7. AI-assisted moderation — Our community uses AI tools to help keep this space safe. Posts containing identifying information, crisis signals, or harmful content may be automatically flagged for review.

What Happens If Rules Are Broken

  • First time: a friendly private message explaining what needs to change
  • Second time: a formal warning
  • Third time: temporary suspension
  • Persistent or severe violations: permanent ban

Your Stage Tag

When you post, you can tag your topic with your current stage:

  • newly-alienated — just starting this journey
  • in-legal-process — currently going through court
  • long-term-estranged — separated from your child(ren) for years
  • reconnecting — in the process of rebuilding contact
  • reconnected — contact restored

This helps others find people at a similar stage.

Questions?

Post in this thread or message @malcolm directly.